Tell me your opinion or what you would do about your fiance?

When my then boyfriend and me moved in together one of the first things I told him was that if his car breaks down he WILL NOT be using mine and I WILL NOT be getting up early to give him a ride to work.


-He drives a 1988 Chevy S10 Blazer very very very well used )oil leak burns oil, bad alignment that can't be fixed without replacing the boots etc.)





Not to mention this is a car I gave him because the last 2 he had broke down and I told him it wouldn't run much longer and I was going to just trade it in but the dealer was giving me $50 so I just asked my boyfriend if he wanted it.





We've already replaced the battery twice so we know it's not that its the alternator





Now he took my car to work today and I reminded him again what I told him when we moved in.





Now HE'S MAD AT ME! I feel this is complete bs and he tried to do the mind game of "oh then I'll just walk to work" but I feel this is NOT my problem it's something he should have taken care of himself before we moved in

Tell me your opinion or what you would do about your fiance?
I will prolly take a bunch of crazy emails for this one....but it wont be the first time or the last time.





You did tell him IMMEDIATELY that if his car breaks down you are not willing to let him use yours, or to give him a ride to work. But you kinda blew it when you 1. gave him a car.....2. helped him get it fixed.........and the big boo boo came in when he said "I'll just walk to work." You should have said "ok" and left it alone. NOT HANDED HIM THE KEYS.......the reason he is giving you a load of bs if because you backed down. In his mind.............you dont stick to your guns.





You have to be stern and seriously not give him your car....this is going to go the direction of most folks he will prolly aruge that he would never do this to you if your car broke down....blah blah blah.....but you would have to remind him that the conversation is not about you needing his car it is about whatever your logic is behind him not using your car and the fact that you did TELL HIM UP FRONT!!!
Reply:You guys are not marriage material. Don't waste each other's time.
Reply:your a team..





if your car broke down.. wouldn't you expect him to help you out???





if you arent' willing to help him out.. than maybe you should re think your relationship
Reply:Sounds to me like he needs to be a LOT more self reliant, and figure out how to take care of himself. The longer you continue to baby him, the more he's going to rely on you. You can't fix all his problems for him.





Maybe he should learn to take care of his cars better, or find a way to buy a new one.
Reply:You're living together...it's called a partnership. You BOTH need to give and take, and it sounds like he just needs another car. These things happen. Scrap together $1500 or so, and get him a working vehicle.


That's it. No 2 ways about it. He needs to work, unless you want to find a stay at home fiancee'. Just suck it up and act like an adult...both of you. You both should be working and both need rides. You share a place and therefore, share finances.


Why give him greif about it?


it's that or break up, because it won't end happily if you can't get past this tiny hurdle.
Reply:time for you to realize this relationship isn't just your way ..or one sided ..yes he knew he had car trouble ..but then again you knew that also ..if it was such an issue why didn't you make sure that he had it taken care of before moving in ... so if you had car trouble you wouldn't expect him to help you ? what if you was stranded ? ... time to grow up a little and realize that you both are in this relationship ... there are always aggravating things that come up ..it makes you stronger if you work through them together
Reply:If you are going to marry this guy you need to realize that it's not yours or his. Everything becomes ours. Money and possessions. There are very few marriages out there that survive any other way. The great thing about marriage is that you have someone to help you shoulder the load. Troubles are halved and happiness is doubled. If you can't share a car I don't see how you can share lives. Good luck.
Reply:Get rid of the loser... you are 21 and more responsible than a 28 year old that you are going to marry....I do not think so.
Reply:What i do to figure out if i'm being fair or unfair to my husband.. I trade spots with him... if you were the one with the broken car would you want him to say tough luck to you and say that he warned you and not help you out..
Reply:move out



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